If you think that you are immune to jealousy and envy because you are a very nice person and you have everything that you need well think again! Even people who have everything can be jealous or envy of somebody else, either their own children (yes that is the case) or their siblings, or friends or even famous people, colleagues, wife, husband. There is nothing wrong in feeling these feeling, as everyone in one way or another have felt them. You might be a parent and because of circumstances you might have had a hard time in your life or even not have everything that your children have because you made sure that they are provided for. Now this might be an unconscious feeling. You might use a new gadget that you have given to your child as a punishment to take it away if they do not do what they have been told. You might be angry inside for no reason at all. And if you are a very sensitive person, you might have picked up other people jealousy and envy of yourself for some reason or another, which would emphasis the control towards your children or the jealousy towards them. This does not mean that you do not love them or you mean to harm them, it just means that there is something that needs to come to the surface for you and acknowledge it and let it go or do something about it. For example you might have wanted a different life for yourself and you did not have it for some reason or another. Now you can acknowledge that the life you wanted did not happen because you chose to look after the children and because you needed food or a roof under your head to make sure that everyone was OK. Now you might have wanted to do something else in your life and you see a mother or your own children achieving that quite easily and you might get angry with yourself because you have not achieved it. You might see a friend who has done just what you wanted to do and managed to have a family and run a business that you wanted to do. So unconsciously that anger becomes jealousy and envy and that envy and jealousy gets out through something else.
Now it does not mean that you are a bad person or anybody else who feels that is a bad person. it just means that you need to acknowledge that you have not done what you wanted to do and you can either accept that and let it go because you had to prioritize other things in life or start going for what you wanted to do and let transmute all the jealousy and envy for everybody else into compassion, love and good things in life!
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